I was scrolling through my feed.
There was an advertisement for a floor polishing product.
The dialogue that proceeded the pitch said something about a mother in law doing her quiet “judgey” thing whenever she looked at her daughter in law’s scratched up floors.
I can’t tell you the name of the product.
I got stuck on the words “quiet judgey thing”.
I am a mother in law.
I am writing my own playbook because I never had the honor of meeting my husband’s mother.
She passed away a few years before my husband and I met.
Over the years I’ve been taking a lot of notes.
The most notorious piece of advice to a mother in law is to zip your lip and unzip your pocketbook.
That sounds so unflattering, but does sport a kernel of truth.
My favorite mother in law saying is my dear friend who calls her daughter in law her daughter in love.
So it seems the in law relationship has many dimensions.
This week’s Torah portion is called Yisro the man who was Moses father in law.
This man was a high ranking religious leader in his hometown of Midian and he comes to visit the Jewish people.
The Torah portion begins with the words “and Yisro heard”.
We’ve spoken before about the grammatical error of beginning a sentence with the word ‘and’.
The commentaries explain the “and” is connecting us to the events that have proceeded Yisro’s arrival.
He came because he heard something that moved him to action.
First lesson of this portion.
If you are inspired by something - do something.
Yisro was a spiritual man. He spent his life investigating the religions of the world. When he heard about the miraculous splitting of the sea, Yisro wanted to hear more.
When he reunites with his son in law Moses tells Yisro about the miracles and salvation the Jewish people have experienced.
Yisro is so moved he says Baruch Hashem, blessed is Gd for bringing about such miracles.
Yisro is actually credited with being the first person to say Baruch Hashem.
We might wonder about that factoid. After all, didn’t Leah our matriarch name her son Yehuda in gratitude to Hashem, Gd, for the miracle of an additional child?
In fact, we the Jewish people are called Yehudim, those who thank.
So how can we attribute Boruch Hashem to Yisro?
From a practical standpoint Yisro is the first one who coined the phrase and his uttering of said words is inscribed in our Portion. Our Sages teach us that Yisro’s utterance was unique in that he was the first to thank Hashem for someone else’s salvation.
This is taking caring to another level.